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Gems of Wisdom?
Fundamentalists, frozen by their feckless lives and frightened by an imperfect world, wrap their
minds in moldy blankets of absolutes, retreat into warm memories of venerated pasts, and snuggle up to demagogues peddling lifeless legends of
Life is uncertain. Thank God!?.
Think outside your myths.
A God who launched, enervates and sustains uncertain
evolution is far more worthy of respect than a
controlling, micro-managing, deterministic creator who favors self-serving supplications.
We have two alternatives: we can live and thrive with
uncertainty or we can huddle in a corner, forever waiting
to be certain before acting. Our lives express our choice.
The big-bang and evolution may express God's choice.
Playfulness is a joyful embrace of uncertainty. So is
We can experience a moment in one of three ways: joy,
pain or boredom. Boredom is the least desirable. It is a
form of non-existence. Many choose self-inflicted pain to
Perfection sucks! It is boring.
The desire for perfection is ultimately the desire for
In order to regulate (reduce uncertainty) one or more
variables in a closed system, we must allow other
variables to fluctuate more wildly. The relentless
increase in entropy, randomness or uncertainty, in
closed systems cannot be altered. It applies to
businesses, governments and the process of raising
children. Corollary: You can control some of the things
to a limited degree some of the time. You can't control
everything at any time or anything all the time.
(Apologies to Abraham Lincoln)
Failure is not an option: it is an essential.
Uncertainty and Perfection
Philosophy, Science and Theology are straw mothers for Philosophers, Scientists and
A healthy belief is both intense and playful. A fanatic's beliefs are intense without
playfulness. (Insight from reading Eric Hoffer's: The True Believer.)
Tolerance is nurtured more by playfulness than by knowledge.
The idea that we can (or should) save someone else is a great fallacy and a source of
untold harm. An alcoholic friend was in AA and had been sober for over 10
years when he told me the following: When he was drinking, those who tried to help him did the
opposite. He took their support and used it to sink lower. One day he looked in the
mirror and said "I don't want to be a drunk anymore." From that day on, the support
of his friends and family was vital to his recovery. When we attempt to save people in
spite of themselves, we take the responsibility for their lives, leaving them with no
purpose or value of their own. What arrogance! The best we can do is support people
who have chosen to save themselves and are leading their own salvation. It is
unfortunate that President Bush didn't understand this. If he did, we would not have
invaded Iraq to "Save the Iraqi people."
A democracy is not alive and healthy until it has at least two ex-presidents (prime
ministers), from different parties, living in peace as civilians.
To learn requires one to remember something new. To remember something new
requires one to forget something else. (This applies both to humans and computers.
A blank memory has a pattern. Producing a new pattern requires altering, losing, an
existing pattern. In some cases an old pattern represents nothing useful.)
Limiting the life spans of individuals is nature's way of enabling a species to learn and
There are three possible relationships between people: malevolent, benevolent and
consenting adults. The benevolent relationship is the most degrading one because it
breeds dependence and passivity in the receiver and self-righteousness in the
benevolent party. Malevolence at least breeds a strong desire in one party to change
the relationship. Healthy, sustainable, personal or professional relationships can
only exist between equals relating as consenting adults. Such relationships have
three characteristics: mutual benefit, competitive alternatives, and playfulness.
Healthy productive people in healthy productive companies have rich personal
lives. They are eager to come to work and eager to go home. Each venue nourishes
the other rather than sucking out its life blood.